Wednesday, November 26, 2008

What's In Pam?

I am a stats junkie, I love to check my site stats weekly to see who is visiting and how they came to my site. The other day I noticed that someone landed on my site via Google using the phrase, "what's in pam"?. I had to chuckle to myself (I could only assume they were not referring to me, but to the cooking spray). After the chuckling subsided, however, the first thing that came out of my mouth was, "A heart! That's what's in Pam!"

It's true and I am not afraid to admit that my heart (in my VERY humble opinion) is one of my best qualities/features. I am grateful for my heart, because it enables me to...

...feel deeply
...be me
...be an empathetic coach
...be a concerned friend
...be a passionate and compassionate lover
...be a caring, loving, and supportive mom
...hear between the lines as to what is not being said, but is felt
...connect with others on a deeper level
...be guided in the right direction when I listen closely to it
...always try and be the best I can be
...support and care about others
...to love on all levels and to be loved.

Since it is Thanksgiving in the States I wish to express my sincerest thanks to my heart and a huge thank you to the anonymous visitor for asking the question and spurring me to take the time to acknowledge an important part of me. Dear readers, it is time to share some love towards yourself and acknowledge a quality or feature that you have and are grateful for, so I ask, what's in you?

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Monday, November 17, 2008

Go Big or Go Home Question: Ask and You Shall Receive

Today I watched this wonderful video of Esther and Abraham Hicks regarding finances and Wall Street. Something that Abraham said (via Esther) hit me like a ton of bricks, "Strong asking and a little allowing goes a long way."

I'm not going to say much more, as I don't wish to ruin it, however, I'm going to encourage you to watch this short little video and then think about the following Go Big Go Home Question;

What will you strongly ask for?

After you have asked let go of whatever it is you asked for, having faith that it is meant to be yours. Your job is to remain as present (in the here and the now) as possible, open to any suggestions regarding actions to take in order to bring what you want to fruition.

Happy asking and allowing!!

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Tuesday, November 04, 2008

Give the Gift that Keeps on Giving: YOU!

Just recently I gave a presentation to a group of dynamic women. As I was listening to their introductions it struck me just how much transition, stress, and even pain was in the room. Some of these amazing women were really reaching out for a life line and a way to make things better. Now normally I start my presentations with a bit of background, i.e. my certification as a coach, etc., but this time was much different. This time, as I stood in front of the group I felt the compelling urge to share in their pain by sharing my own personal story.

I shared how seven years ago my world completely changed, actually, it pretty much fell apart. I was in the midst of a divorce, getting adjusted to being a single mom, not making ends meet financially and so I was living off of credit cards to ensure my son and I had food on the table. The situation looked and felt grim at best and I was really floundering. (You know it's true that during times of stress and strive, it is so easy to get caught up in the fear of it all and to lose sight of who we are and what we want.)

While I wouldn't wish those circumstances on anyone, I'm not sorry that I experienced the stress, fear, and even the pain. To be honest, it was the kick in the pants that I really needed. It was at that pivotal moment when I knew something had to change. I had to change. In order to do so I really had to do some soul searching and find out who I was at my very core. What's funny, at the time I didn't realize how not knowing me was contributing to all the turmoil. It wasn't until I started coaching and working with a coach that the penny dropped.

Today, I'm in a place that's HUGELY different to where I was seven years ago. No more living off credit cards, no more struggling, not as much fear, very little pain and stress. I have more confidence in myself and my abilities, and deeper trust/faith in knowing that I can be, do, and have the things I want as long as whatever it is, is completely in alignment with who I am. I'm living proof that life can and does turn around for the better.

If anything I have shared sounds familar to you then please consider getting to know who you are at your very core. Take some time to explore you. Make that commitment to yourself, because you deserve to have the best. In turn, I am making the commitment to support as many people as I can to really connect with who they are, to feel more confident, to eradicate the fears, to be the very best they can be in this New Year.

With that said, I'm offering another group coaching program beginning in January (for more information, please visit willtherealu.com). I made an announcement on the site that if folks sign up by December 1st they can register for a discounted rate of $495.00 for the four month program, which is a savings of $165 (the equivalent of one free month). However, I would like to offer the following; for the first 12 people to complete the application by November 19th, I will offer them the entire program for $250.00 (a savings of $410 for the entire program) as my holiday gift. In addition, I will be awarding scholarships to two people.

Participants will receive the following:

- Two, one hour group coaching sessions per month via phone
- One, 45 minute individual coaching session per month via phone
- A monthly buddy call with another participant in the program
- The e-workbook series Will the Real YOU Please Step Forward
- Access to a private online area where you can interact with other group participants in between calls

Some benefits for participating...

*Group support and encouragement
*Connection with liked-minded people.
*Safe, confidential space to share and grow
*When you strengthen your inner self, stress and tolerations are dramatically reduced
*Changes from the inside out
*More peace and balance
*Awareness and clarity around who you are and what you want
*Accountability

Space is limited to 10 people per session so if you are interested, apply today.

Together, we can make things happen. Together we can end the stress, the pain, and the transition.

Posted by Pam at 3:12:43 PM in Creating Change (95) | Permalink | Comments (0)

Tuesday, October 28, 2008

Plugging Into That High Voltage Energy

I don't know about you, but all the negativity surrounding the current state of affairs (i.e. the economy and the election) is enough to drive me bonkers and become a real energy drain. Yesterday was the first day in a really long time that I felt the heaviness to the degree where I wanted to throw up my hands and scream, "Screw it (OK, so I was thinking of something a bit more colorful, but this is a family show), I'm done!" (Not done as in ending it all, just done with all the crap.) Instead of running down the street screaming like a banji I decided it was time to get the ol' energy flowing on high again.

When times are tough and feel heavy beyond measure, one of the worst things we can do is to tap into the negativity. Tapping into the negativity is not only a real energy drain, but it supports the creation of more negativity. So during those times it is important to unplug from the negative charge and plug into some high voltage energy. I know, I know, it's easier said then done, but I promise you it is possible (and I don't make promises lightly, my friends.)

Case in point; yesterday when the heaviness was creeping in, I did a few things that helped to lighten the mood and increase my energy (not necessarily in the following order);

1) I didn't try and stuff my feelings in the bottom of my sock drawer. I felt them through, said "hello" to them and acknowledged their presence.
2) I got present and out of the land of the "what ifs" (which is located in the future). I did so by taking stock of the things surrounding me, reminding myself that in that present moment I was a-OK.
3) I played some music.
4) I rested when I needed to.
5) I spoke with a dear friend and had some good laughs. (Thank you, Jon.)
6) I avoided negative and heavy conversations.
7) I listened to some more music (my son's marching band) while sitting outside, enjoying the nice fall weather. The breeze blowing in my face and through my hair, watching my son, and the fun music was a great pick me up.
8) I wrote and got some important thoughts down in my journal.
9) I hugged my son (multiple times).
10) I watched some comedy and laughed some more.

My dear friends, it is time to unplug from all the negative and plug into some of the good stuff. What brings you joy? What lifts you up? What gives you a positive charge? When you feel the energy draining and your mood going South stop and tap into the things that make you laugh, that spur feelings of love, that pull you into the present moment. There is nothing like plugging into some high voltage fun to get your energy levels up; charging with positive energy is better than charging with negative energy any day of the week.

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Tuesday, October 21, 2008

Go Big or Go Home Question: Embrace Your Inner Goofball

(Many thanks to my friend Michelle, not just because she is a fellow goofball, but because she inspired me to write this. )

I am sure you have all heard the phrases, "Life is too short" and "Live a little". Those are phrases I am all too familar with, as I have been accused of (and rightfully so) of being far too serious. As a matter of fact, my best friend recently said to someone else, "I have helped Pam to loosen up." You know, I didn't realize I was uptight until I participated in some good ol' fashion reflection. Yes, I will admit it, I used to be a little too serious, a little too analytical, a little too tightly wound; "used to be" being the operative phrase.

What I have found, it is a-ok (more than a-ok, actually) to embrace my inner goofball, to cut loose and have some fun! The world does not stop rotating on it's axis when I make funny faces. The men in white jackets have not come to cart me away to a padded cell when I crank up my music and dance around the house. (What usually happens is my son starts to laugh and shake his head, but I can deal with that.) You wanna know what really happens when I get silly with my bad self?

I laugh more.
I don't get as stressed.
I certainly don't sweat the small stuff.
I have more fun.
I attract more of the good stuff.

So, my friends, the Go Big or Go Home Question to you is, what will you do starting today to embrace your inner goofball?

Come on, get silly with me! You know you want to.

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