I used to feel the same way that you do- I used to think, "are you kidding me? Are we reducing God to a bumper sticker?" And, I still agree that we can't leave that to be our only means of evangelizing- chances are no one will look at my cross necklace and instantly be saved. But, for me, I don't wear my cross to evangelize, I wear my necklace more as a reminder for myself. Sadly, I sometimes need that reminder of Who I represent and it effects the way I behave around people, how I speak to people, how I choose to behave when no one is even looking, or how I choose to spend my time. It makes me stop and question- am I bringing glory to God by saying this or doing that? It helps me to be a person that (hopefully) is becoming more Christ-like day by day, and to be a better example to others.

Holly,

While the one man seemed too pushy, ( I was taught that the Holy Spirit is a gentleman), I have learned not to judge. Yes, sometimes it is a turnoff, but I believe for the most part that they meant well, or perhaps this is how they are being taught. I see nothing wrong with a cross necklace or a fish symbol, as this was used by the early Christians to identify themselves. We are simply to keep away from those who claim to be the Messiah, as Jesus warned us, as the Messiah Jesus has already come. Let us not separate the body of Jesus anymore than has already happened. Judge not. Let the Holy Spirit be your guide.

Thank you Holly. I think what you said was spot on. Many times I will see people out with "Jesus" t-shirts or bracelets, etc on and they act like the devil. How discouraging this is to the real Christian. I think the way we live our lives and verbal witnessing are the keys to reach unbelievers for Christ.

My sister and I were just talking about this topic last night! We both agreed that we feel uncomfortable talking to others and "witnessing" to others about our faith. We both became devout Christians later in life and we both agreed that one of the things that had put us off being Christians for so long were (in our words) those "'fake bible-thumpers' and 'holy-rollers' who tried to shove religion down our throat". There were relatives who more like lectured us about not going to church and yet, although they went to church, they were the most blatant example of what we considered to be "un-Christian"; gossiping, lying, critcising, making rude and hurtful comments, and of course being judgemental. All this further turned my sister and I off to "religion" and being Christian.
Eventually we found our own way to Jesus Christ and now we agree that the best way to share Jesus with others is to try and be the face of Jesus to all those we encounter and interact with every day through what we say, how we address others, how we treat others, how we ourselves act and the love we give just as Jesus taught us. We are far from perfect, of course, but we never claim to be. We claim to be better people than anyone else, we don't claim to have all the answers and sometimes we don't have our act all together but in Jesus Christ we have it all and we try the best we can, with God's grace to do His Will and be His mirror if He will allow us the honor.

Great article! Your anecdote about the café reminds me of a passenger who occasionally rides the bus I take to work. While obviously a believer, he is one of the most obnoxious people I have ever encountered. On one occasion, he discovered that the bus driver was a Christian and proceeded to talk to her very loudly about the reality of hell so that everyone else on the bus could hear. He began his conversation by practically shouting, "In 50 years, everyone sitting on this bus will be dead!" He then launched into a fire-and-brimstone speech about the outer darkness of hell, saying that he once made his daughter spend an hour locked in a closet so she would understand how terrible hell will be. Because of this man's constant talking, the bus driver neglected to check the schedule about a transfer that another passenger had inquired about, and the poor guy got off at the stop without knowing which bus to take. Another time I had the misfortune of riding the bus with this man, he embarked on an angry tirade against Islam, shouting at anyone who would listen that according to the Quran, a husband may urinate on his wife. I doubt that many people were drawn to Christ through his comments.

Holly,

Great blog! I think so many of us get wrapped up in what the outside looks like, that we don't focus inward enough. Being a Christian is simply about demonstrating Christ-like love. Thanks for the reminder.

Davina

I heard it preached at church recenlty that "handing out tracts to strangers, in the sincere desire that they will respond to the Gospel message, is no longer an effective form of evangelism. Only two percent of the people that get them respond by asking Jesus Christ to forgive them of their sins and be their Saviour. Thus, we can conclude that we should no longer use this annoying form of evangelism."

If I was in that two percent, it made all the difference in eternity!

My thoughts exactly!

I resonate with your thoughts.

I feel frustrated and turned off by what, to me, seem to be contrived strategies to convince people to see the world the way we do.

I love Jesus. He died for me and I am so thankful to Him for that. I believe He is the only way to God. Yet, God gave us the ability to choose or reject Him. Jesus was open and honest about who He was and why He came to earth. He didn't use gimmicks or manipulate people or try to debate people into believing in Him. He was who He was. That was spectacular enough to draw large crowds not with gimmicks, but by meeting real needs. He debated with those who challenged Him, but He left the choice up to them.

I wonder sometimes if we hide behind gimmicks and strategies because it's easier than sharing the truth of our walk with God - that it's not always perfect, that we sometimes struggle and doubt, that we don't have all the answers, but we still cling to God anyway.

Well said. I hope your husband wasn't irreparably offended by this incident.
That man was certainly awful, doing more harm than good, I agree. I wonder if he ever stops to think about what kind of results he's getting, and not getting...
However, I'm not sure I totally agree with all you have said. I don't think most people would be offended by a Jesus t-shirt or fish on my car if the rest of my life is in line with what God wants my life to be like. That man was offensive, no matter what his message happened to be. That's not Christ-like, and our goal is to be Christ-like.
Thank you for this thought provoking blog. I would rather wear a Jesus t-shirt than look for people to talk to about my faith, but that's not how the gospel is most effectively spread. It's a word of mouth thing. As we interact with the people in the world and make friends and show ourselves friendly people may want to know why we have hope when they don't. Or they may not. My possessions may give them a clue, but I need to be ready at all times "to give a reason for the hope that lies in me." When God prompts me to speak, I need to obey. The same goes for listening. My job is to be where he can use me, listening for his direction. It's his job to make the seeds we sow grow and bear fruit.

Thank you for posting this. It serves as a reminder that true witnessing is by the words and actions we speak, not by what we wear alone.
I have to admit, I do have quite a few t-shirts that have Jesus right in the front. Some of these shirts were bought as a fundraiser and when our outreach team had major events in the community.
I actually like wearing these shirts. Some of them have great graphic designs, and are pretty modern looking. Others are bright and are meant to stand out. Either way, I've learned you dress for the occassion - sometimes I wear them, other times, I don't.

Two things I keep in mind though:

1) Without saying a word, my appearance will make an impression on others. What do I want to impress on others about myself and who I am?

2) Whether I'm wearing a Christian t-shirt or not, everyday I need to put on the armor of God, put on the mind of Christ...
and smile....

"Jesus said, 'By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another'" John13:35

I live in Indiana. Our state offered plates with IN God We Trust. It was challenged but the new plates won. It is the most requested plate. I never thought about what it meant. I'm a Christian and have one of these plates.

I agree that some people can turn non-Christians off to the Gospel because of their aggressive or obnoxious style. However, I am also of the opinion, that in our society, Christians are increasingly being given the message to "just be quiet". I do not think that is a message we necessarily need to buy into. I do believe that we should always be sensitive to others. However, some of the symbolism can be uplifting to other Christians, even if it does not do anything special for non-Christians. I am sure there is an appropriate balance in there somewhere.

Thank you for sharing what God has laid on your heart. There have been times when I have experienced something similar and found myself being uncomfortable with the display. Not because I am embarrassed by the Lord, but because I feel that nonbelievers are turned off by that indirect type of witnessing. I have often been tempted to purchase one of those bumper stickers common to Christians but have thought better of it for the same reasons (although I think some of them are less intimidating and "ok"). However, I don't agree that there is anything wrong with wearing a cross anymore than it's wrong for a Jewish man to wear his yamaka(sp) or a Muslim to wear their headdress. What is important is that their behavior and attitude honor the Lord at all times. If we want others to know we are Christian then we have to be bearers of Jesus' light in this dark world in all we do. Also, in this day and age, people respond to the gospel through relationship. We really don't have a right to expect to impact people's lives with the gospel if we don't invest in them. I think the gentleman would have been more effective if his approach had focused on kindness to and interest in the waiter or waitress and allowing the Holy Spirit to direct him in what he should say. God would have made sure that a seed was planted in whomever he wanted to plant it in.

One reason to show my faith is as an encouragement to other believers. I'm more likely to wear my witnesswear to an event where I know most everyone will appreciate it than anywhere else.

From my viewpoint, the wearing of garments with messages of faith is actually a rather daunting thing...may I never do or say anything unworthy of Jesus. People watch - seriously watch - some just to "catch" a Christ follower behaving poorly.
May we always be aware that our words, actions, behaviors, attitudes and even lack of these things NOT cast a poor light on The Lord! May He always be glorified!

Thank you Holly. I had a teacher who told me "If you have to TELL someone you are a Christian, then don't". His advice has helped me many times. Your post has complimented his wisdom by helping me to realize that visual "witness" can be an excuse to avoid personal interaction. I can hide behind a bumper sticker and then blame the bumper sticker for my failure to make an impact in someones life, or worse, think my bumper sticker IS an influence. Relationship building takes a personal investment, much more costly than t-shirts, bumper stickers, etc. - maybe that is why we choose the the latter. Thank you for the blessing.

Years ago when I worked in grocery store several of us wore small Christian symbol pins on our smocks. A responce I'll never forget was by a regular customer who said that she also was a Christian but she didn't need to wear her faith on her shirt for everyone to see, her's was very personal. This made quite an impression that maybe people don't always view these symbols in the way we mean to have them viewed. At the time I didn't stop wearing them, but it definitely gave me something to think about.

Things that I have learned in my journey is that there are different ways to do things and different ways to reach people. I agree that the man in the resturant shouting would have turned me off as well but you may never know the plans that the Lord has for the man and the "possibly annoying conversation" that he presented at that time.
I also agree that we should not just rely on what we wear or display on our cars as a way to reach others and teach them about what our beliefs are. I want to live a life that others stop and say, "what is different about her?" so that they may want to know more about my saviour. I tend to be a little more on the shy side in general so I have to find a different way to witness to others.
I too have a fish on my car and I keep it there not just for others but myself as well. If I notice that I am getting angry in traffic and want to have revenge on the crazy driver I just remember that the fish emblem is on my car and that God would not want me to act in such a manner. So often times I use it more to keep myself in check and to keep myself held responsible for how I should be living so that others might see Christ in me.

I remember reading a bumper sticker in college that said, "Christians aren't perfect, just forgiven." I couldn't get my mind around it one bit. I thought to myself, "duh, nobody's perfect!" I thought it was meaningless to have such a sticker on one's car. Now, I understand the statement a bit more clearly. However, I still don't see the point of Christians sticking such phrases on their cars. It's almost like putting a sticker on your car that says, "I'm better than you," with nicer words than "f--- you."

There is an eatery in Wheaton, Illinois that attracts a lot of students from Wheaton College and one we were in there when a couple decided to have some fun with them. They took out copies of The Satanic Bible and had a Satanic bible study, doing a perfect parody of the Christians at the next table.

The students almost choked on their food, but the other patrons enjoyed it immensely, including a couple who taught at the college and went up to them as they left and told them they had never laughed so hard in their lives.

I think there are positve reasons to wear Christian t-shirts. When I was younger and worked at the mall I wore a "Jesus loves you" t-shirt to work and stranger came to me the next day and thanked me for wearing the shirt because it reminded him that someone does love him. Maybe we don't wear the t-shirts for non-christians, but to for fellow christians.

I agree that we should be the ones bringing the cookies at Christmas and in general loving our neighbors. However, I think that our neighbors are done a great disservice if we do not a some point let them know why we are the neighbor who takes the time to get to know them and serve them.

hi holly,
I really appreciate your point of view and you are right sometimes people can annoy us but only God knows our hearts and perhaps the couple in the resteraunt had a sincere desire to witness but just went about it the wrong way? Who know's there words may have planted a seed in SOMEONE at the dinner, you never can tell. I am proud to announce that I love Jesus Christ whether that is with my voice when witnessing or by my bumperstickers . I own several shirts with Christian themes and I am proud to wear them they make me feel good and a lot of times it does strike up a conversation and leads me into an opportunity to tell someone about God's love for us. Mainly they are a reminder to me of who I am representing in this world and how much I love Jesus and I want everyone to know it!! I show in my love for people and my witnessing to those who are lost that I am a follower of Christ . I don't watch,read,or listen to much mainstream t.v. , movies,books or music either. In my life I choose to celebrate my Love for Jesus in every aspect possible and that goes for my clothing also!!

This article and the comments that follow were really thought provoking to read! I became a believer later in life and before I was Christian, I was very put off by Christians who verbally 'confronted' me about my faith or who seemed 'pushy' in telling me about theirs. Their actions made me more resistant to the message they were trying to convey. On the other hand, the young Christian man who had the the most positive impact on my point of view lived his life in an amazing, giving, respectful, and kind manner. I never had thought about his faith, until one day we were talking about the importance of family and he said only God held a place higher in his heart than his family. It was this simple statement of his beliefs in conjunction with his actions that had a huge impact on my heart. I believe his actions and simple declaration softened my heart and I gave my life to the Lord about a week later. Now when I see someone wearing a Christian symbol or having a Christian symbol on thier car, I just think of it as a simple declaration of faith, much like my friend spoke to me. It defines who that person is in a way. Sometimes I feel encouraged by seeing other people declaring their faith. From reading people's responses, it seems the symbols bring out different reactions in people, almost like a Rorschach Test. I think its important for us not to assume to know what people's reasons are for displaying their faith visually. I believe people do it for many reasons. It's never offended me to see a person wearing a Christian symbol, even when I wasn't a Christian. (And I was pretty easily offended back then) I was just glad people were not 'pushing their beliefs on me'. Maybe for some, seeing the person's visual declaration along with their actions will be just the thing to soften their heart too.

I am always amazed that external displays of Christianity are frequently deemed offensive, while other religious groups are encouraged to display their distinctiveness. A robed Bhuddist or turbaned Sikh are admired, while cross pendants are viewed as crossing the line.

Hi Holly,

The guy is fickle in his evangelism and probably new to his faith. He was probably told by somebody that he should witness at work. But, he like me does not know how to do that and how to react and dont even know who to ask for help in this area. I am also sure that he was scared to death while he presented his case. It must have been heart wrenching. All this I get from your description of him (the way he checked people's reaction).
But I request you and others not to demonize him. He is a brother who needs correction and guidance. Not, condemn him for his act. What this brother has done is not second hand evangelism. He was trying to do first hand evangelism and failed at it miserably.
The second hand evangelism is the most attractive because it is the least heart wrenching (Like bumper stickers). The fact it is, it is easy to establish a relationship with a neighbor. But it is extremely difficult to guide someone to Christ. There are those who do it quite easily and wisely. They latch on to every God given opportunity. Not so people like me. I think - How would that guy react? Should I tell him to pray to Jesus or simply comfort him? - There are a myriad thoughts that go on in my mind and the output is many times fickle. Many times I feel guilty about not being able to share Christ although I find it easier to comfort someone.
I agree there are those who are genuinely interested in the Gospel and need to be carefully guided and some of these acts put them off. But, acts are not the primary put-off for some of the folks. They are simply incidental. The main problem is the heart which has not accepted Christ. I am not accusing them, it is true even of me, when someone corrects me.

I love my savior with all my heart. The holy spirit guides me as well informs me when a deed needs to be carried out. I say those are blessed who can scream to the high heavens in recognition of their Lord and Savior. It does not matter what we think. It only matters what the Lord thinks. If he is doing it in a loving way and seeks no praise but glory on the lord let him scream praise to the highest mountain and continue into the heavens. Just because you don't like it does not mean he is in the wrong. If there is no self justification but only unto thy lord then let him praise.

I’m Latino, so speaking about God with older people in my community is like talking Allah with an Arab, it’s second nature, so many are not offended but believe they will seek God when they are old. But you’re right, you’re not defined as a Christian by your attire but by your actions. Be the shepherd, my dad used to say, so I try to help others where I can and that in itself is an extension of my faith.

God works in different ways.Christians shouldn't judge other christians.are we not the salt and the light?.

Thank you so much for this article! I was especially annoyed with the knock-off tee-shirts (ie Jesus instead of Pepsi on the logo) that made Christians look cheap.

Funny that Jesus said that the pharisess didn't know the scriptures or the power of God. We are to plant seeds not worry about if they grow or not, for that matter you can neither cause one to see or to grow. If even in the not so bright light of our belief, we try to be seperated and to let others know from a distance that we are disciples of Christ can't be wrong. As for others let them walk their road or path, and be careful not to stray from your own path.

I think some people wear shirts, etc...to show how proud they are to be christian and love God..much like sports fans. I have also known such displays to come from people who like to "shove" the bible down people's throats...I live near a Church and whenever they put some kind of quote up on their billboard, I will read it, and there have been times when what was put up there applied to me and made me think! I think those kind of displays also show we are united. I agree with what Amy said at the end of her post quote: "Maybe for some, seeing the person's visual declaration along with their actions will be just the thing to soften their heart too."

I resisted putting a fish on my car for a long time, but recently moved to one of those areas that is really hostile to Christ.
I felt like I needed one now. Not to slam anyone, or even to evangelize, but to show the light in a dark work.
Also, I do pray when out to eat with family, but I try to be discrete.
Remember that the Darwin thing is a form of mocking Christ as well. And I see a lot of those where we live. More than the Christ fish.

I was exactly like your husband two years ago! My mother in-law was constantly pushing religion down my and my husband's throats. The more she pushed, the more I pulled away. She lived her life for the Lord and I could never understand it. Then......she had to have both of her legs removed. And she stopped pushing us because she was so involved with the recovery process. First she was in a nursing home and then after many months she was able to come home. All that time she never pushed anymore. But I saw some things for myself. She was not depressed or anything like that. She was just happy to be alive and to home with her family. We would come to visit and she would sitting at her sewing machine sewing, using her stump. She had to give up her musical instruments, of which she played many, and played out in churches, nursing homes and senior citizen centers. Still not depressed. Then it dawned on me......it was her faith and her family that was getting her through this.

Needless to say, my husband and I are now members of a church that used to pray for us to accept Jesus for our savior! I am happy to say that my dear mother in-law lived to see the day that we were both saved and baptized. She is not with us now, but I know she is waiting to see us again someday.

So I try to witness in the way I live or ways that are not pushy or showoffish. I think some people just do not know how to introduce their faith to the unbelievers. If you go over the line, they won't listen.

I cannot say anything to this but a hearty amen!!!! I think this not only does not do any good but does a lot of harm!! I would prefer someone who does sometning in their neighborhood to make that neighborhood a better placeand become Jesus to the community around him or her.

I agree with Bill, sometimes I feel that people of the christian faith are being muzzled....there needs to be a balance....its true the dude sitting next to your husband was ridiculous....but let's not throw the baby out with the bath water...

As an atheist I just thought I'd share my perspective on the visuals that Christians give. I think that the things people do for themselves are completely inoffensive, cross pendants and WWJD bracelets are a good example. However those things meant to witness are easy to spot and half the time they feel almost hostile. A woman commenting said she put one on her cars bumper mostly to remind her to act Christian, but how she sees it god only knows ; )
I have a simillar sticker in my car to help me through traffic nerves but it stands on my dash for me to see. I have friends who've tried to convert me and it involved respectful conversations at appropriate times. There was an honest attempt to find out what I believed and why before explaining their own beliefs. Conversations not Lectures have had postive impacts on how I view Christians, in fact all my negative experiences come from the Lecturer's. In a conversation you can generally judge if the subject is enjoying the exchange but in the onesided lecture such as the resteraunt example you are unable to gauge if you are converting to Christ or adding to the long list of bad Christian experiences by ruining someone else's right to enjoy their meal. Bumper stickers and T-Shirts are like the Lecture, some are funny or atleast inoffensive but many others carry a "I'm better than you connotation". If you really believe in the Rapture you think I will be in eternal Hell so the joke isn't that funny. I find less fault with the Athiest (I could be biased) response since it assumes no real harm will come to any party. It reminds me of the similar kid version When one is sent to the principal's office"Dude, if you don't make it back can I have your .....?" Obviously I am not trying to help you convert people but I do want to help lessen some of the anti-Christian sentiment that I know many feel. I feel it myself when confronted with the Lecturer's who disrupt my life rather then contributing to it. I guess my point is obey the golden rule... if you lived in a predominantly Islamic counrty how would you want the Muslims witnessing to you? With respectful conversations where they also take time to hear your beliefs or bumper stickers and billboards that say that only Mohammed can spare you from Hell's eternal fire. A certainly know what would lead to a more civil and friendly nation even if not a more Christian/Muslim one.

Holly great subject.
I do agree with your husband 'did that guy think your husband would have been interested in talking to him' we now know NO.
Unfortunately our family (of Christ) is not perfect. Some want the whole world to know about Jesus and are to shy to speak directly. Some are really out there, big personalities, big charactors. We are all so very different. The good thing is God has made us all different for a reason. Maybe we dont have to have symbols to prove that we are christians but there are others who like that and we should be allowed to express ourselves. If I dont want to wear something to advertise it that's up to me but if someone else does that's up to them. sometimes doing that brings criticism not only from non believers but from us as well. Lets let liberty that Christ gave us operate sometimes its fun.

Shalom

I agree that if the symbols we wear is all there is to it, we should take them off. There is no honor for Christ in heathens wearing His images.

However, if the symbol is a reminder to us throughout the day, or a validation for observers of the Christlikeness they see and hear in us, it is a powerful tool for ministry.

Moreover, the cross has been under attack by unbelievers on the political left for many years. The legislature in my state has considered legislation more than once to ban the cross from any public buildings, including necklaces. Our country was founded on the premise that we are free to practice our religion without interference from government. It was not to keep religion out of government, but rather to keep government out of religion. If we should ever lose that freedom, we will be in a very bad place as a country.

So, my cross is not only my reminder, my comfort, and my constant honor to the Lord. It is my right and even my responsibility to wear, out of gratefulness for a country that allows me to worship Jesus freely.

Thanks for raising the issue!
Cheri

I have been waiting for someone to say this for years. Think about it: Has anyone EVER heard a conversion story where they say "I was watching a ball game when I saw a John 3:16 sign and decided to look it up . . .", or "I was driving down the street, and I wondered why anyone would have a bumper sticker about a Jewish carpenter for a boss, so I decided to do some research . . ."

Have any of you ever voted for a candidate or an issue because of a bumper sticker? Anyone decided to vote for Obama this year because of a bumper sticker or for McCain? Any of you changed your mind about the Iraq war because of a bumper sticker?

Thought not. Why would anyone decide to change their religious beliefs because of a bumper sticker?

A few years ago I was the "victim" of a "Drive-By Tracking". I literally was hit in the face by something thrown from a car driving by. When I picked it up, it was a tract. I felt lucky that it did not take my eye out. I was a bit peeved. Imagine my reaction if I wasn't a Christian. These guys did not even have the guts to talk to my face.

Jesus or any of the early Evangelists never used any of these tactics, nor should we. But I also know talking face to face with someone is not easy.

I am one of those who also likes to wear such paraphernalia to remind myself sometimes. I play with my jewelry (nervous habit) and am large so my t-shirt is always in my sight when I look down. I also have had opportunity when strangers ask about a bumper sticker or a t-shirt saying to respond with "Yes, this is truly what I believe." Sometimes the conversation continues and sometimes that's all I am given opportunity to say. I do feel guilty though as I don't pray (grace)in public. We're all flawed.

Holly, thank u for expressing your viewpoint. There are many different ways and styles of evangelising. What might appeal to you, may not appeal to some one else & vice versa. How one person is led to the Lord might differ to how you or I were led to the Lord.

There are so many different types of advertising going around the world, most of it sexual, demonic & ungodly. I find it quite refreshing to see Christian paraphernalia in a world so full of confusion & hate! Our lifestyles should obviously also speak volumes & we should be the best representation of Jesus that we can be, wherever we go.

If your husband was so put off, did you ask him why? Could he have been under conviction? If this man's style of evangelism was so off outting, did you as a sister in the Lord, give him guidance & steer him into another form of evangelism? At least he tried to gossip Jesus, as he knew how, it may not have been to your liking or taste, but did you gossip Jesus or display his loving kindness through your actions or words?

As Christians it is our responsibility to guide & correct our fellow brothers in the Lord. We spend an awful lot of time talking about stuff & not actually making the difference God put us here for in the first place, which I think is a great shame. I actually know people who have been touched & ministered to, in a restaurant, in a similar fashion & saved powerfully, who have gone on to having powerful ministries. We're all different, let's learn to lead & guide by example & if need be, correct/discipline in love, that's what Jesus would do!

Hey cool article, but hey we are all called to do different things in the body of Christ. I say Holy Spirit Lead go for it. We can no longer be undercover disciples. Gods peace be with you all. Reminder focus on everyone else and Our Heavenly Father will take care of us. HOOAH

I have read these ideas and i actually feel i have done nothing for the Lord!! We live among many people who are actually watching our ways to see whether there's an entry point through which they can get to Christ but we instead block them yet we continually say praise the Lord! What would be the cause of us praising God when others don't know why they need to praise the Lord. Christians have a slogans of starting there speaches with praise the Lord yet they really don't mean it because it is not reflected in what they do. Jesus associated with all kinds of people even those who had countless demons but once we see a dirty or undeserving person in our courtyards, that is when we open for the dogs and say "Kamatta" Kamatta is a swahili word for eat him. We have become dogs that scare away God's people instead of being Christ's representatives! But we can still make it when we humble ourselves and allow God to speak through us!!
Lillian

I agree with your views. The man at the restaurant did more harm to Christianity than good.

As a Christian I have a "little fish" at the back of my car. It reminds me to drive carefully and safely; and to be a good example. You can't have a person with a fish emblem driving wrecklessly !!!

I write from a British perspective.I see no problem with religious symbols ie cross,star of David etc but I feel we live out our Christian journey through our deeds .My priest says constantly that we should be out there helping people in a practical sense and showing them Gods love .I do volunteer work for a Secular charity where we are not allowed to"preach" but some times there are chances to speak about ones faith in a non threatening way to the clients who are of all faiths and none This is through meaningful conversation not agressive behaviour .I just wonder if the man shouting his head off has ever been taken to one side by his minister/housegroup and told he is doing more harm than good to the cause of Christianity

What an insightful article. Surveys have found today that one of the average American's chief fears today is of the stranger. More direct outreach, showing personal concern for others, conveying our faith through our deeds and our words together will go much farther than any second hand witnessing attempts. In this age of increasing isolation, despite being the "age of connectivity," small gestures of personal concern are greatly appreciated and a wonderful place to start.

Wow, now everyone is offended by our wearing a Jesus T-shirt, cross, and bumper stickers.. should I stop wearing my cross? I used to wear a little Music note, maybe I should start wearing it again, or would it offend people who aren't into music,or if I were a bad singer,would it turn them off of music? I don't know. We do have to be very careful not to offend anyone . If the man in the restaurant had been talking loudly about anything , it would have been annoying.

In spite of one key term in the "new covenant", Jer. 31: 31-34, ("ALL WILL KNOW ME") secured and delivered at the crucifixion and death of Jesus Christ (Matt. 26: 26-29), I have yet to hear or read any firsthand witnessing by any Christian individual or group who really knows the LORD firsthand and personally. In fact, the opposite true! Firsthand witnessing is discouraged by everybody!!! If you need any confirmation, please visit www.the2keys.com. Blessings!!!!!!!!!!

Christ said they should know we are Christians by our love....not our tee shirts. Love overcomes our imperfections and shows our heart.

Though we are forgiven we are still imperfect. I worry about the damage that secondary witnesses with bumper stickers / license plates do as the speed, cut someone off in traffic, or cut a traffic light too close.

I'm with you, Holly. :^)

By far, the most effective evangelism is personal, Spirit-led evangelism either by a friend or family member. That's not to say that God can't use anything to speak to the heart of a lost person (He used the rock opera "Jesus Christ Superstar" to reach me). But, it's true, there are things that hinder, more than help, the cause. I think the "hit-and-run" incident at the cafe' could be filed here.

May God give us a heart to love and wisdom to reach those who are lost. Jesus was a friend to sinners. Maybe that would be a good place to start.

The article wasn't about the man at the cafe. The article was really about Christians wearing T-shirts, bumper stickers, jewelry that display their faith. I disagree with the article. I have stickers on my vehicle, wear t-shirts of Christian nature. I'm not afraid of people knowing I'm a Christian. I don't do it to get people to come to me and say they want to be a Christian. I do it so when I am in public and show Love or prefer someone else. Acts of kindness on the road or at a store. people will know it's a Christian acting like a Christian should. To let them know not all Christians are Jerks and self-centered. So Christians Display your colors! And act like Christians!

Holly
So many different opinions. Please realize that is why we as Christians need to proclaim Christ in EVERY way possible. My beloved sister Holly, HE will get the witnessing done even if he makes the stones speak. Please don't worry about our shirts and necklaces. Worry about lost souls dying and perishing in a hell torment. Sister, if they get offended at the open display of Jesus then they will not exist in the eternal life "if you are ashamed of me"..... and ,"blessed be those that don't get offended", and "if they didn't believe Moses.".. so many comments thru out the holy scriptures. And remember Our Father even said POST MY WORD ON YOUR DOOR etc...Priests wore frontlit bands... My precious sister proclaim the word of Christ as loud and as visible as you can!!! HE calls his own, each person makes a choice. IT IS TOO LATE IN THE DAY (time) to be quiet. Let us not hide Christ He is worthy to be seen, heard and recognized. If a tee shirt or necklace offends them then they might not want to look at the clouds. Because HE'S coming bigger than a tee shirt. If we would only worship as we should we would be a spectical ourselves, we would fall to our knees each time Jesus' name is mentioned. The angels themselves cry HOLY HOLY HOLY continuously AMEN!! I will pray for your husband sister. I love you!! To say you were bothered by the brother speaking praises to Our Lord is like telling GOD HE is not in control of every thing. EVERYTHING. You might have given the brother a big hardy AMEN! He sounds like a Son of Thunder to me. Remember Our Father created us. He knew already that the Brother was going to witness that way and HE already knew YOU and your Hubby was there. Love you!!

I am one of those Christians who tries to often wear symbols such as shirts, caps, etc. It is indeed my way of glorifying the Lord and lifting him up in this fallen and decadent world. For too many years I was ashamed of my Christian identity. I have problems appreciating those professing Christ who wear all sorts of clothing gloryfying consumer products, rock bands and other secular things, but would not be caught with a shirt proclaiming their professed faith. I am very careful about the symbols I choose, seeking to have them communicate exactly and only what I believe.

Holly as very narrow minded approach. I wear my Cross, to reminded Me that I am a Sinner and Jesus died on the Cross for Me!

I can see your point, but I wear a cap that has "God is good all the time, All the time God is good" . This cap has brought a lot of people coming to me and giving a positive attitude about it. We then talk about God. Sometimes just a minute or two, then others, a long time.
I feel the man in the cafe did wrong. When my wife and I go out to eat, we say Grace in low tone. All in all, I think bumper stickers, hats, pins, etc. are helping more than doing wrong. They sort of "break the ice" for conversation. (about Jesus Christ, our savior).

Getting back to the man in the cafe, Actually it is too dangerous for us to say anything loud like that in public these days. There are so many killings, you don't know what is going to happen next. Thank you for discussing this, I think all of the posts make a good point. Different ways for different people!! Anything that helps to save souls is the way to go!!!

I've always collected t-shirts and so I have many Christian & youth group t-shirts. And I found them "cute" while I was younger. Some of them now not so much, though I respect others' choice to think they are. I try to wear things to make a statement about who I am to myself as well as others. In some ways, it's not that different to me to wear a polo with a fish on it as to wear one that says "Miami University Alumni" on it. Which come to think of it has sparked some conversations. Several years ago, the Bengals had a quarterback who wore a black baseball hat with an simple orange cross on it as a matter of claiming who he was and people held him accountable to that standard. They became popular after the NFL cracked down on him violating a policy. Now I noticed at a concert someone is making a similar hat. However on the side of it, so that it takes 3 times as much space as the cross it says "Subtle Christian" How can anything written that big be subtle? And how many people are laughing at the logo rather than just noticing the cross as the person stating who they are?

Holly, Holly, Holly,

A big to do about nothing? The man in the cafe was over zealous to say the least. It sounds like he did more harm than good, in the short term. T-shirts, crosses,etc are not a problem if that is the only thing people choose to do. Perhaps it is a stepping stone for them to a more bolder witness later. Perhaps it to make them feel good and loved by the Lord. We all have different gifts and the word goes out and it does not come back void. Lighten up, girl! Different strokes for different folks!

Brilliant article. But I think it may be wrong to think that stickers etcetra don't convey any message. My experience. There was a day I was downcast. Almost frustrated. I was driving on a busy Abuja Road. A vehicle just 'flew' past me in an offensive over-take. But I was fast enough to catch the text on the sticker: 'God hasn't finished with you yet!' I saw it in a flash, and there and then I thought the guy's dangerous driving was 'ordered by God' to encourage me, that He's still there - no matter what. Sticker evangelism may be one of the diverse ways in which God speaks to (His) people.

Interesting article, but the question I have is whay are you married to a non Christian man. Did you become a Christian after you married or did you hope to convert him yourself.

I have clothing from Christian companies, and I tend to buy the ones that don't have a huge logo on it, especially since I don't like logo t's in general. However, I buy it because I trust that their profits will fuel something greater than someone's material wealth. Also, the companies I purchase from emphasize that their products are made using fair trade/labor policies. Living as an unbeliever, I spent my money on products that profitted companies, enabling them to push for all sorts of issues that I disagree with now. Supporting Christian apparel companies doesn't mean you always have to be stuck with a cheesy shirt. I would recommend that all Christians take a look and see what Christian apparel is available to us, the money that God provided us with can help further His kingdom, not just the ones we give to our church or to charities.

Holly, I agree with you. Here in Brazil the situation is similar, with people wearing "Jesus" T-shirts, stickers on the bumpers and so forth. It's not usual to see "regular" people speaking aloud about their faith, but is very, very common to see self-invested preachers waving the Bible and yelling the gospel in the crowded streets and public places at the great cities like São Paulo and Rio.

There are few results, if any. Maybe thanks to the strong religious diversity; maybe because we christians over here are faced as fool people, once many preachers and christian politicians have a special ability to deceive their followers. But the other side is a real problem: if one of these brothers wearing a "Jesus" T-shirt does anything wrong, people immediatly say "these christians are feigned persons, aren't they?" Shameful.

The only thing that really works is the example. If somehow you can show you are different from the rest of the people, if you make clear that you care about your neighbour's sufferings, if there is no doubt that you are really able to love - the "agape" love - then people will stop and hear what you have to say; they will even ask you the reason why your are that way.

"Christ love me first", you'd say, "that's the reason I can love".

Someone just sent me this blog. I really sympathized with you and your husband. The blatantly loud christian at the next table was annoying, and I agree that the cheesy sayings on signs, t-shirts, etc., can be, too. Although, we do have "in God we trust" on our money.... which does not annoy me in the least. Some things just make sense, and need to remain free to be "out there" for the world to see... like it or not. ;)

Another cafe story: my mother, sister and I were eating in a cafe in Virginia, traveling to see family in the South. We never spoke of religion, God, prayer, or anything of the sort that we could remember. Yet a man walked up to us as he was leaving the diner and said: You look like a group of fine, Christian women!
Go figure! A colleague once said to me, knowing I was going through a very tough and public time professionally: you must be a Christian. I asked her why she thought so as I had never mentioned it. Her answer: because you are handling this with so much grace and forgiveness. Shouting at people is seldom effective and wasn't it Jesus who commended the man praying quietly over to the side? I also resent the assumption by some of these people that I am not a Christian and that they must "save" me. If you are living in the Spirit, it shows, believe me. Good article - thank you!

And, oh yes, I know it's fashionable for many people to think that "Christians" are being silenced. Personally, I don't see it. I grew up during the 50's and I never heard so much talk of God as I do now! So much God and so much materialism at the same time. Again, go figure!

I own two Christian bookstores that are in comparatively small towns. T-shirts don't sell all that well to begin with, so for me to order one it has to really, really impress me with a unique approach that is sympathetic to the feelings of the unchurched, and also has great artwork. Very, very few meet that criteria. Most are worn around other Christians, at concerts, at youth groups, Christian camps, etc. Half of the bumper stickers are such that only those on the "inside" would get the joke.

As for the man at the restaurant, regardless of the fact that ultimately he IS a brother, he still ruined the meal for both of you, and I would have politely but firmly asked him to shut up. Regardless of his intentions, I'd bet that God Himself was embarrassed. Salt and light? Don't think so.

I totally agree with you Holly. What are they thinking?

Very interesting comments on this subject, some defensive and some very understanding but while reading I kept thinking of the scripture - judge not lest ye be judged. We have been warned of false profits and decieving angels, we know the world is full of strangers toward God - it's our relationship with Him that is important. If we are close to God then He will show us what to avoid and what to bless and how to express our love for Him. One day it might be to stand on the street corner and read aloud from the bible, another day it could be making an anonamous donation to a needy person or helping a neighbour with her groceries. Get in touch with God first and let Him choose your tee shirts.

Thank you for bringing to the forefront an interesting and obviously much-discussed topic!

I wear a cross every day. I bought it for myself when I became baptized at the age of 40. I wear it for for the joy it brings me in my salvation. I wear it as a gentle reminder of the comfort with which God's forever-abiding love affords me. I wear it as an outward reminder to myself of the choice I made to represent God and Jesus in my life. I do not wear it as a proclamation of my betterment of those around me. I do not wear it to invite conversation (no one has ever used my cross to start a conversation). I do not wear my cross to stake a claim in judgment of others.

Are there Christians who feel differently than I about the symbols they plaster upon themselves and their possessions? Of course! And my hope and prayer is that God is using each and every one of them for His purpose. Look at the example of the gentleman Holly and her husband encountered. While he may have been brash or even rude, perhaps this man was inexperienced. Perhaps he was simply doing the best he could. And perhaps we can look at the result this way: Holly, who is Christian, could talk one more time about something related to being Christian with her husband! Perhaps God placed this man in Holly's path for this purpose. Or maybe the man's dining companion gained enough courage to speak with him after the meal and discuss a change to his evangelical approach simply because other diners were vacating the premises.

Each person we touch with our faith comes away with an impression of it whether we like it or not. Sometimes that impression is positive and sometimes it is not. My job is to provide the best representation I know how to give. God's job is to do the rest and help guide each person toward Him.

Thank you, thank you, thank you!!

I just wish that the people who need to "hear" this message could/would.

There is few things that are worse than someone "loudly proclaiming their faith", and then acting rudely, crudely and Christlike.

Non-Christians actually have more than a clue as to how followers of Christ SHOULD behave, and there is little more that will convince them of the Truth than when they see Christians around them behaving that way consistently.

Holly,
Thank you for your article.Most people wear cross just for the fun of it,and never thought of the meaning. I wear necklace to look good, but am always conscious of the symbol because they tell whom am i.I dont wear T-shirt that has all kind of words like; gun girl,sexy etc.I think the best thing is to let our behaviour and daily living be an example to the umbeliver instead of what we wear
As for the man in the restaurant, he have no understanding of whom christ is yet and his understanding about evagelism is low

The responses to this blog are in fact more interesting and revealing than the actual original post itself.
First of all we are talking about whether or not wearing t-shirts, bumper stickers, jewelry, etc is offensive and counterproductive to the process of getting the message of Jesus out and known. We say, Jesus and the original disciples didn't use such "gimmicks". They also didn't use the internet to discuss this topic, or post sermons, or sell Bibles or any of the other ways we spread the word today. In Jesus' time they didn't use the radio or TV, they didn't offer podcasts or online streams of church services. Should we dismiss all these ways of spreading the good news just because they were not available earlier.

I think we are missing the point. Are our clothes, jewelry, etc, just another way of expressing our faith. Should we hide our faith because someone might be offended? What would please God more, making the effort (however humble) or trying not to offend an unbeliever of Him? I agree that there are more and less effective means of communicating. I also believe that our actions always speak louder than our words but the two do go hand-in-hand.

As most Christians can attest, we probably were "convicted" over a long period of time in a variety of ways. How many alter calls did you sit through before you finally went forward to accept Christ? While God may one day "flip a switch" in some of us, it seems more often we are brought closer to Him a little at a time. We are repeatedly reminded of His presence and grace until finally it makes sense. None of us can tell what part we play in this process. Maybe the cookies helped, maybe the bumber sticker provoked thought, maybe the loud man annoyed but did it bring God to the forefront of our minds.
Why are looking for ways to minimize our impact on those that don't believe in Christ Jesus? Why are we bickering amongst ourselves on the best way to help someone see the light. Let us just go all out and do it in any way possible, in any way available, by any means that helps bring the knowledge that Jesus is the answer. Many people are going to die today and they are not going to be with God. We know this. Why would we tell someone trying to help to just be quiet? What would please God more? What are we really afraid of?

I hope your unequal yoke was offended.
Just as Jesus said he would be.

Dear Holly,

Your article speaks a lot that I agree with and yes I am sadden to hear when supposedly Christians who are long been there already speaks so loudly to themselves proud being blessed or just proud to show that they are christians but doesn't even care or dare to be with people. Another thing with regards to bumper stickers or necklace or bracelets or t-shirts actually they are good tools to start a conversation and sharing not to use as competition in the market for business. It has to be a purpose for a good cause.

I think these are the people who 'shooed' others away from God. However, If his wife reaction is more of a supportive and showed sign of in being good faith with her husband the picture may be different. Action and faith have to go together.... but action has to speak louder...... so that people will see Jesus and glorify God though it. We can always be repulsive to this kind of action.

hi, when i first read your article, all i could think was that there are a lot of Christians criticising everything. am not condoning the man in the restaurant. i wouldn't have liked that either.mostly because i was thinking of getting a sticker about Jesus. my motive was to say i belong to Jesus and I'm proud of it. i've struggled with letting others know about my faith. i thought this was one way to start.but as i read the comments, i came to undertand a bit more. and you are right, people should see am a Christian by the way i act not by what i sayor wear.

Holly says: I'd like to clarify the point of my post.

The issue I'm addressing isn't whether one should or shouldn't wear or display Christian paraphernalia. (And I certainly don't condemn the wearing of "Jesus" t-shirts or cross necklaces.) I don't think the issue is that black and white.

Instead, I attempted to pose the question: Why do we wear and display Christian paraphernalia? What are our reasons for doing so?

Here are a few questions for the consideration of TCW readers:

1) If you wear or display Christian paraphernalia, what are your reasons for doing so?

2) Do your actions back up your symbolic statement?

3) Is your witness limited to these displays, or are you having real conversations about your faith? How well do friends, co-workers, and neighbors who aren't Christians know you personally, and how well do you know them?

It's also important for Christians to consider how their bumper stickers/t-shirts/etcetera are perceived. In my opinion, there are some slogans that are clearly offensive, damaging, and not God-honoring (e.g. "Turn or Burn"). Again, we need to consider our actions. Are we acting in love? Or are we displaying Christian words and symbols out of pride, to incite, or to express superiority to non-believers?

Even if we're not wearing a "Jesus" t-shirt, we must continually ask ourselves: Do our words and actions reflect our faith in God? Are we "prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have" and doing this "with gentleness and respect" (1 Peter 3:15, emphasis mine)? These are very important questions for every Christian to consider.

Holly,

While I appreciate the sense of your letter, I encourage you to be like Paul and allow whatever means of proclaiming Christ to continue. There are people in every aspect of evangelism that poorly represent the message. Don't let their failure be the deciding factor on the merit of the medium.

A few years ago, my wife and I returned to our car after a doctor's appointment to find a note tucked under our windshiel wiper. The writer had parked behind us and noticed our license plate frame which says "Are you tired of being sick & tired - Jesus is the answer" along with two Scripture references. The writer was having a difficult life experience and thanked us for the encouraging words.

I'd rather be "Jesus with skin on" than let some article of clothing or a bumper sticker speak for me, but by whatever means that some might be saved, I'm willing to grin and bear it.

I agree with Julie...
The reason I wear my Christian Tshirts and my cross is not necessarily as a witnessing tool, but to remind myself to act as Christ would. By acting as Christ would (holding the door for someone, helping the elderly in the grocery store, etc.) I am being an ambassador for Christ and that becomes a witnessing tool. I don't do these things to get attention but to give honor to others and be more Christlike.

Holly, my prayers go out to you for strength to keep on praying for your husband...it isn't easy being married to a non-believer (I am also married to one).
Thank you for sharing this wonderful article with us.
God's blessings..
Laurie

Holly,
My son wore his Christian T-shirts to school all through Middle and High school. He wore t-shirts from Christian bands and had stickers on his binder as well as his car. Doing this enabled him to share his love of Christian music with many of his fellow students. One year his Relient K CD spent more time being passed around the class than in his possession.
His classmates and teachers knew he was a Christian and respected him. He was voted in as a ASB officer and he was chosen by his peers as a commencement speaker. If only more students in public schools would stand up and be counted, what a difference it would make.

Holly,

Something about your blog stinks...

May I offer you a TestaMint?

;)

Kyle

Holly:

Thank You for commenting on a subject that is on the minds of contemporary Chiristians and has a wide range of views: I learned even in my early Christian walk that the secondary Christian symbols that became popular with the media growth and commericalization of the Christian lifestyle in the 70's. that it was far from being a reflection of the person character who was displaying or wearing it, especially if it was more 'displaying' than subtile. I often learned that even more passive displays could also mean that their 'faith' was only pick-and-chose whatever you like-as you are. Two of these aspects can still be used by the enemy to try and trip my faith: (1.) Vehicle displays with a Chirstan witness who show lack of respect for others and authority in their driving. (2.) A definite 'guy' thing--any female media celebirty on TV, music, movies, pageants, and just anywhere in the general public, wearing a noticeable cross or modern Christian symbol dressed quite sexually revealing, i.e.; hanging down in the cleavage. If one is really serious about their faith and relationship with Jesus Christ, I do agree that they need to seek His leading in even what seem like little matters, but they reflect of a larger significant character of Jesus to others in and out of the church, as well as be that subtile reminder who their really belongs to.

Thank God for this write up, it calls for caution on our mode of witnessing. We discover more cars are born again than their owners, this comes to light in a country like mine where the conduct of christians in traffic situation is unwholesome.

Everyone has their own way of trying to witness to non-believers. I don't think they should be criticized for taking that step. It is a very courageous thing to do, I know, as I am often trying to do the same thing to my family. We are on this earth to try to win people over to Christ. It is one of the responsibilites we have to mankind. Perhaps the man's approach in the diner wasn't the ideal way, but it is a step in the right direction, and I think with time he will be able to learn from each experience and better 'tweek' his witnessing skills. As fellow Christians, we should be holding him up, not knocking him down. That does not help anyone. As for wearing cross necklaces or Jesus t-shirts, I, at least, choose to wear my necklace and drive confidently around in our car with our fish emblem on the back as a sign of my faith. Whether or not other people choose to believe it as well is their choice, but one of the great gifts God gave us was freedom, and that includes the freedom to demonstrate our faith in whatever way we see fit. These are symbols of our belief and perhaps a way for us to identify other Christians--much in the same way the Chinese to when they draw one side of the fish in the dirt to a fellow Chinese to see if they complete it. It is almost like a brotherhood and it's something people should be proud to display.

Holly,
Very thought-provoking article. I think your point about the motive for wearing Christian symbols is a good one. Is it out of a true desire to witness to unbelievers, or is it to fit into the Christian club? Or it is out of an attemp to take the easy way out when it comes to evangelism? I think this is something that each person needs to examine their own heart find out. Ideally, I think a true Christian witness should be a balance between words and actions. I also like a quote I once heard from Brennan Manning "The biggest cause of atheism today is Christians who profess Jesus with their lips, and then walk out the door and deny Him by their lifestyle."

I would like to share an experience I once witness. This happened in in the fall of 1995. I had just graduated highschool the previous spring and was attending a local technical college. I took the bus to school. I struck up a friendship with a non-believer. This woman was open to discussing religious things. We didn't agree, but we were able to carry on a conversation without it degenerating into an arguement. We both respected each other and was willing to listen to the other's point of view. I remember one day, this woman and I were waiting for this bus. This guy (who neither of us knew) walked up to my unbelieving friend and told her "If you don't give your life to Christ, you are going to go to hell." I was shocked! It was obvious that my friend was very angry. So I felt that I had to confront this guy. As gently as I could, I asked him why he'd told her that. He said that was the the way his church had taught him to evangelize. I told him I thought he owed my friend an apology and that he had really offended her. But he refused to apologize. Once we were on the bus, I could tell that I would going to have to unruffle some feathers. I remember my unbelieving friend said "How could he say something like to me? He doesn't even know me! That makes me so angry." I tried to calm her down and assured her that I didn't agree at all with his method. We got into a really good discussion.

I have long since lost touch with this woman. I can only hope that she wasn't completely turned off to Christianity by the well-intentioned, but inappropriate actions of this one Christian.

I have an ICHTHUS symbol in the car, not so much to witness to others but to remind me to drive well.